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Holy shit, “hatriotism” is new to me and it’s…perfect. DAMN. I love this.

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Every. Goddamned. Word. And bonuses for the f-bombs

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Brilliant and moving. My phrase for it is swimming under ice – keep going or succumb. And people are standing above you saying, “How beautiful!” And all you can think as you feel for a crack is, “Stop applauding and help break through.” And they’re, “What? And fall through?!”

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I am with you on all of this. Brene Brown's most recent podcast features a social psychologist talking about the effects of pandemic flux on our psyche. Flux has become my my 3rd favorite 'f' word.

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I needed this today. I am run down, exhausted, and tired of giving to people. Especially the people who in one breath, laud me for being in their corner and in the next breath, hide like bin Laden when I need them.

It's good to be seen. Thank you.

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I am one of yourself ! Hail to the burdened out of honour and obligation to go farther and longer on a trail of duty for all that should be cherished In a world that has lost the concept of this term . I will die with honor before I will live in shame … but evil needs someone to blame and they should blame themselves while the arch angels endeavour to preserve and stand for all that should make us worthy of this life … god bless you sister … Together We Stand ..Divided We Fall … I Am With You … Kimberley Westley

If we believe all things are possible

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So many people I know are just trying to put one foot in front of the other, trying to keep moving forward until things get better. What started as an uphill hike now feels like a death march. Stopping is not an option but helping others on the journey is the only way we will get there.

Thanks for your powerful words. They help.

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This fucking newsletter hits particularly hard this week. I just found out that something I've been strong about lately is going to get worse and it will be even harder to maintain my strength and pretend like it's not beating my soul down. I'm working on getting out of that situation, but until I can I have to be strong... And it is completely exhausting.

Sending you virtual hugs. You are doing something truly great with this newsletter.

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Did you feel that? Fuck, I felt that. And I sure as shit know exactly how you woulda said in verbally too. That deserves a slow clap.

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OMFG YES! SO exhausting to be strong all the effing time — especially for those of us who get up every day battling depression and/or anxiety, and put on that grimaced smile and do it all again.

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This. This right here.

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i love this newsletter, thanks amber. hope you're doing ok

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“Hatriotism”! Perfect.

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This is so timely, as usual. I went into full come apart mode last night because I’m exhausted from keeping it together.

Thank you for putting these words in black and white. It’s comforting to know I’m not alone.

You’re making a difference where it really counts.

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Amber I see you. Your words speak to my heart and soul. Thank you again for this. It needs to be yelled from rooftops and mountain tops. Sending you hugs

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OMFG you're in my head reading my mind again and it's ... whoa.

Just returned from my first Big Girl Wearing Actual Pants conference in another city that I hadda fly to. Traveling again was terrific.

Conference? Again with the white guys, again with the fucking resilience, and yet AGAIN with the motherfucking "oh, you're spicy!" and "you seem angry" when I speak utter truth in the face of shiny happy bullshit.

You're right, it IS exhausting. Now I'm doing it w/a Stage IV cancer recurrence. I'm doing it 'cause the status quo keeps NOT becoming more human and NOT recognizing the humanity of the humans involved in that most human of service line, healthcare.

I've been spitting actual fire for decades now. I won't quit. But I am very, very tired.

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